You have to be able to reset properly on a daily basis.
Otherwise you’ll turn up to work the next time running on fumes.
Works takes away a lot from you; it drains your resources (e.g. energy, mood etc.)
You need to replenish and be able to build up those resources through the right types of activities so that you’ve properly recovered during your free time.
It’s important, not just because recovering from work properly translates into better productivity (at work and at home), but also translates into better psychological health and overall well-being
As recovery becomes increasingly elusive, some become so depleted that they suffer from burnout.
This is the first of a two part series full of practical tips on how to properly recover from work during your free time.
1. Identify activities that replenish your resources
According to Sonnentag (2001), general resource-replenishing activities include:
– Social activities (e.g. meeting up with friends),
– Low-effort activities (e.g. watching TV),
– Physical exercise.
Resource-replenishing activities are called recovery experiences.
Physical exercise is great because it has huge stress-management potential and changes the chemistry of your body, not to mention other help benefits that are worth bearing in mind.
Social activities are great too, although there are notable exceptions when socialising fails.
Resource-replenishing activities can include those that require different sensory activation.
So if you’ve been reading all day at work, try cooking as part of your recovery from the workplace.
If you’ve been staring at a monitor all day, smelling and tasting some good food will surely restore you.
2. Remember what makes a great recovery experience
The best resource-replenishing recovery experiences are those that incorporate the following:
- Psychological detachment from work
This means “switching off” and completely forgetting about work during leisure time.
It’s not enough to physically distance yourself from work.
You need to mentally distance yourself in equal measure and think about something else entirely – other than work.
You can read all about psychological detachment here.
Mastery can be gained from seeking out and experiencing intellectual or physical challenges; doing something that will broaden your horizons.
This is where low-effort activities fall short.
There’s no mastery in low-effort activities.
There’s no greater meaning to them, no greater sense of progress or accomplishment.
For me, I gain a sense of mastery from writing this blog, discovering the secrets of human psychology by reading books, or cooking, to name a few examples.
But I also experience mastery in my swimming and cycling, striving to improve every time I hit the pool or hop on the bike.
A sense of control (or autonomy) in whatever it is that we do is a fundamental human need.
We experience a lot of autonomy from deciding our schedule in the sense that we get to choose how we spend our time.
Filling out your taxes after work may theoretically be classified as recovery, but it’s not necessarily something you’d like to be spending your leisure time doing.
In fact, quite often is the case that people procrastinate on filling out their taxes to such an extent that little choice is involved in actually choosing to do this particular activity.
It is a fundamental need to have a choice in what we want to voluntarily spend our leisure time on, a sense of autonomy in choosing what activity we want to participate in.
Your activity needs to relax you.
It needs to help you kick back and chill.
Whether this is hitting the pool, reading, or chilling with friends while listening to some tunes, it’s all good if it’s relaxing.
3. Try to avoid low-effort activities if you’re stressed
Low-effort activities aren’t always great for recovery.
If physical activity is the healthy, nutritious meal of all recovery experiences, then you could say that low-effort activities can sometimes be thought of as the junk food of them all.
You might feel you’re recovering while chilling on the sofa, but if you’re still thinking about work or are worrying about a job-related task while doing so – you’re not recovering from the workplace properly.
In such a scenario, you’re still activating the same job-related functional systems and you’re still experiencing prolonged activation – it’s as if you’ve never left the office.
Low-effort activities can backfire on your recovery this way.
Be done with work the moment you are done with it.
Be done when you’re done.
4. Learn to disentangle from worry
Worry is a future-focused emotion.
You think of an uncertain event in the future and imagine the anxiety stemming from an outcome that hasn’t materialised and doesn’t simply exist.
By worrying about a future event, you are not living in the present moment.
Don’t let worry poison your leisure time.
Instead, learn to relate to it differently.
One effective way to do that would be to practice mindfulness so that the worry has less of an impact on you, both emotionally and behaviourally).
“It [mindfulness] is awareness that emerges through paying attention on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally to the unfolding of the experience moment-by-moment”
– Jon Kabat-Zinn (2003)
The mindfulness approach encourages people to accept their difficult thoughts and feelings rather than working against them.
“Anxiety is an emotion. It is an emotion that disempowers you and accomplishes nothing. So when you learn how to get into the moment and how to engage in active meditation, you no longer feel anxiety and you get into a state of flow.”
-Mike Cernovich, author of Gorilla Mindset and the popular blog Danger and Play
P.S. Thanks for reading. If you liked this, be sure to check out part 2 of this series. Feel free to sign up to the whatmybrosaid email list for more posts like this.